Understand 16 characteristics of true love.

Love. It makes the world go round, right? Well at least that's how the saying goes. But it is true? It should be, but a lot of people mistake love for things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love is neither of those things. But these 16 things are.

So here are the characteristics of REAL love:

1. Love means saying goodbye to expectations.

Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want. We want them to be more loving. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for the "acceptability" of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. Just love "as is".

2. Love does not play the role of victim or blame others.

Love doesn't believe that others are "trying to catch them." Love does not believe that her loved ones are wrong. Love works together. Take responsibility. Forgive and allow other people's actions to be your way. Love doesn't take things personally.

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3. Love includes letting go.

Love does not equal possession. As the saying goes: “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it never was. "There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom. It does not hold on tightly and flattens its wings in an attempt to maintain them. True love does not want to possess. to free yourself if you want to be.

4. Love does not require you to continue a relationship.

You may love someone very much, but you may not be compatible with them. Or they can drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn't mean you have to be with them. Love doesn't mean you have to stay and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.

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5. Love has no place for jealousy.

Like possession, jealousy does not equal love. We believe that if we are not jealous of our loved ones, it means that we do not love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. Know that the other person is happy and content coming back to you and only you.

6. Love is the absence of fear.

You can put all the emotions on a continuum. On the one hand, you have love. Then thanks. After that, it is joy, happiness, joy and satisfaction. At the opposite end of the love continuum is fear. Other fear-based emotions include hatred, insecurity, jealousy, or greed.

7. Love is not need, but want.

One of the things we try to teach children is that there is a clear difference between a want and a need. Needing someone is a feeling based on fear. You're afraid that you can't live without them, so you need them. And remember, fear is the opposite of love. Loving someone in your life gives them the freedom to leave, but it still shows them that you love them.

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8. Love is an action, not just a feeling.

Human beings need to be addicted to intense emotions, especially when they feel good. So when we are in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess that? That "Cloud 9" superior feeling goes away after a while. That doesn't mean that you no longer love the other person, it just means that they are no longer new. So that's where the action should come in. Show the person that you love them. Don't assume they know.

9. Love is unconditional.

The word "unconditional" means that there are no set expectations or limitations. Loving unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans are not good at it. But true love really loves without trying to change the other person.

10. Love means putting the needs of others before your own or before your own.

While people can be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don't put other people's needs at least equal to yours, they will feel resentful. True love truly cares about the happiness of other people and will do everything it can to make people feel valued.

11. Love is the highest vibrating emotion there is.

Science has shown that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. In fact, they can measure them. Love vibrates very fast, while emotions based on fear (think jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.) vibrate very slowly. When you love completely and unconditionally, there is no fear involved. The vibrations of love make you feel good at all times.

12. Love requires attention.

Love does not ignore. She does not look the other way. She wants to be present and be together. When people are in love, they sometimes think they don't have to "work anymore." But real love enjoys paying attention to another.

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13. Love understands and accepts differences.

Let's face it: we are all different. Even identical twins are not exactly the same. They have different experiences and perspectives on the world. Real love doesn't make other people feel bad about being different. When people really love another person, they accept their differences.

14. Love varies in the way it is expressed and accepted.

What makes us "feel loved." In Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages, he explains the different ways people give and receive love: (1) Words (2) Acts of service, (3) Giving gifts, (4) Spending time together, and (5) Touch. It is important to discover other people's love language so that they can understand each other and give love in a way that the other person recognizes.

15. Love makes you feel good, not bad.

Many people confuse being in a relationship with love. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that true love is present. If there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fights, abuse (verbal, emotional or physical), that is not love. See n. 6. Those are fear-based emotions and actions.

16. Love has empathy.

Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes and see a situation from their point of view. Love has a deep empathy. "When it hurts, it hurts." People who really love each other don't want to hurt them. They want them to feel good. They care about their feelings and do everything possible to make them feel valued and worthy.

Remember, love is happiness, appreciation, and feeling good. Anything other than love. If we all loved ourselves as ourselves, the world would be a better place!