How to avoid players and be a ghost on dates!

Sad to hear my client's dating stories. The stories of attracting players, being ghosts, and fooling around with guys who don't know what they want.

It's devastating to be a ghost and have your hopes shattered by someone who has never had serious intentions about you.

As much as I have empathy for these women, I can't help but think that many of these sad stories could have been avoided with a few minor behavioral adjustments and more dating knowledge.

You could feel sorry for yourself, or you could see an opportunity to arm yourself with smart dating rules. This blog post is not about laying the blame, but about empowering yourself to make smarter romantic decisions and familiarize yourself with dating.

Dating can be confusing at first. Dating can be promising. And it is very easy to fall in love with the wrong man if we have been single for a long time and really yearn for a relationship. This is why single women need to make sure they are grounded during the first few months of dating and adhere to strict rules to protect themselves.

Here are some tips that you can implement to protect yourself from ruthless players and being cheated on:

Don't invest too fast

Little by little it is healthy. When you take it easy, you give yourself time to get to know the person before getting emotionally involved. It's natural to launch into a romantic adventure without thinking, but this is the time when you should go against your nature to avoid making mistakes and not getting hurt. And little by little it also means not having sex until you are absolutely sure that he likes you and loves spending time with you.

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Learn to read the warning signs

If the boy has no genuine intentions, he will inadvertently reveal them to you. You just need to pay attention. It will not be very present in your life. He won't call you regularly. He will make certain excuses. It will not be consistent. It might even disappear for a while and come back. If you pay attention, you will know that something is wrong. And if it feels off, it's off! Don't ignore it and follow your instincts.

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Let the man lead and take the initiative

The best way to know if the man is serious about you and your dates potentially turning into a relationship is to let the man lead. Let him show you his intentions with actions. Let him feel like a man who can chase you and catch you. That means let him pay if he offers. Let him come your way if he wants to see you. Let me ask you on dates. Let him initiate contact more often than you do. These small acts will show you the level of your interest and your emotional investment.

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Have strong limits

You need to know what you can and cannot accept. You need to know how you want to be treated. And when you do, stick to these rules. Are you willing to pay for yourself or should a man pay for you? Are you happy to meet halfway, or should a man come? Are you happy to meet once a week or do you want to meet more often? Explore your non-negotiable stuff and apply it to the dating game.

Also Read : Understand 16 characteristics of true love.

Don't create a fantasy in your head

Often times when we meet someone nice after a long time without dating, our desire for a relationship is very tempting. Our judgment is clouded by our emotions and hormones. We have a strong connection with someone and we feel close to him. Almost immediately we assume that we are building something and that the guy is on the same page as us, although the guy could be way behind us in assuming this is getting us somewhere. We will happily ignore the warning signs so that our happiness will last. This is a mistake. Look at the facts. Don't be fooled by your own fantasy. Watch the boy and how he acts. Don't be fooled by words. Look at their actions. These are generally good clues to judge whether he is engaged to you.

I hope these tips help you better protect yourself in the dating game, avoid being cheated on, and potentially reduce heart ache.

Stay empowered on dating instead of becoming a victim of another player.